Yes, I would say some of them are. My brother would be one of them. Her family is always given priority on major holidays, decision-making and discussions. Yet, when it comes down to things, it is our family (my brother and I) who are the ones who end up shouldering more of the weight/physical burden helping.

I fully agree that both parties in a relationship need to have well-established boundaries on what they will and will not accept in terms of dictation on how they live their lives.